Jason Collins’ announcement that he’s gay is making headlines across the internet.
As the first NBA player or major league male athlete to come, Collins’ announcement is amazing, exciting and truly courageous.
It’s also so bittersweet to read lines like “I’m a veteran, and I’ve earned the right to be heard.”
I want to say something about that here because it seems that tumblr is one of the many online hubs where gay youth congregate to read and create authentic accounts of each other’s desires, interests and social lives.
You don’t have to “earn” the right to be heard. You have that right right now and no one can take it away from you. Even if you don’t know or understand quite what you’re feeling or how you want to describe yourself yet - gay, bi, trans, queer, to name some labels - you are the only person who can tell your story, and that right belongs to you completely.
Sexual desires and romantic feelings are hard for all of us to put into words. It’s even harder as we negotiate the power that labels and terms hold for people with whom we may or may not identify.
If you don’t quite know how to speak yourself yet, that’s ok! You still have the right to be heard. You don’t need to change so that you’re easier to describe. And you don’t need to earn the right to be heard by being the “right” kind of gay, bi, trans or whatever kind of person.
You have the right to be heard, right now!
Love you, beauties!